Hey, I'm getting married next week. Can you guide me on the do's and don't on the first night? Can i approach her for sex? I have an arranged marriage and there's hardly any time that we have had together. I'm a lil skeptical. Please help?

Well, weddings are supposed to be one of the best day in someone's life and wedding night... ahem ahem! It comes with so many desires and dreams, from both the counterparts. The hard part though is living upto someone's expectations and making a mark on them. It puts both the groom and the bride under immense pressure.

Take it easy guys! She will be as skeptical about your "first night" as you. Don't scare her by puting forth your scary instincts. Speed down from 140 kmph to 40 kmph. You barely know her, right? How in your true sense of mind did you even think of plunging on her and taking charge.

Savor the moment. Both of you might just be too tired of the ceremony jazz the whole day. Try and make it a sensuous and intimate moment rather than trying to have excellent sex at this hour.

You guys would be together for long and everything can wait. Take it slow. Go with the flow. Enjoy whatever happens, don't expect it to be a rockin' night. After all holding hands, looking into each other's eyes and kissing can be as romantic. Spend time together, talking, loving her, knowing her.

Flirt with each other during the wedding. You're not a 11th century couple to stay mum and don't even see your spouse. Take time to stop and stare into each others' eyes during the wedding. Kiss in between, hold hands, make her feel special. It will help you approach her when you are alone.

Go with casual cajoling and fondling. Work your way up to it. Give her time to know you. Feel confident about yourself. You may also play soft romantic music in the background and set the stage. Using scented candles and aromas may also set the mood.

Whatever you do, be sure of taking her expectations in consideration too. It's no more about "I", "me", "myself"...it's about "us' now...it's about love now...