Hey, I'm 25 and my husband wants me to emulate his favourite playboy chic 24*7. Expectations in sex are different and playing a porn star in bed is a different thing altogether. I don't understand why he can't the real me, the way I am. I find this cheap and that's me. So why can't he like me the way I am. I resent sex with him noव्!!!

Well, expectations kill for sure. The problem becomes worse when you lose that medium to discuss those expectations and come to an common consensus. Men often tend to be a little too pushy about s-ex-pectations. They want their woman to trandescend from a homely chic to a porn goddess. Sex becomes more of a pain than pleasure when they want their kinky fantasies to be fulfilled at the cost of her comfort and choices.

In your case, before calling it off, you can talk to your husband. Tell him what you feel about his moves. Ask him what he expects from you and how much of it can you actually deliver. Soaring expectations high and then dropping them crashing down will lead to more issues. It's better that you guys talk it out first.

Make him understand that what kind of a person you are. He needs to know that his craziness can't be matched to your subtle wavelengths. After all, everyone is different. He needs to respect your individuality and comfort. An advice for all men: Handle your chics patiently. Don't just plunge upon them. They need space and understanding.

Try to know what she wants rather than just heaping a pile of your s-expectations on her. Let her overcome her fears. Make your way slowly ahead and then find a common way out. She will give you gradually what you want. After all, she loves you just the way you do. But all that needs to be done is to handle her with care!!!